Finding Your Tribe
As horses are naturally social creatures who prefer being with a herd, it is not surprising that we, as humans, also have an inherent desire to be part of something socially. This inclination towards companionship and connection becomes particularly evident during the teenage years when individuals are discovering their interests and forming their identities. In my personal observation, I have noticed that my daughter's closest friends have emerged from the very place that resonates with her passion and love for horses - the barn. Through their shared admiration for these majestic animals, they have developed a unique bond that surpasses superficial interactions. It is incredibly heartwarming to witness how this common interest has fostered a sense of belonging, support, and understanding among these teenagers, further solidifying the notion that we, as humans, thrive when we find our tribe. These girls have formed a tight-knit group that is always there to lend a helping hand, share their experiences, and look out for one another. This particular picture holds a special memory of our first experience at a rodeo event. Although the girls knew of each other before, the camaraderie they developed that day created a bond that has grown ever since. They motivate and support each other to give their absolute best and to step out of their comfort zones. It's amusing to think that my daughter entered the rodeo world just for barrels and bending poles, and now we find ourselves involved in goat tying events, all because someone encouraged her to try something new. As the season progressed, the duo became a trio, and then more, as they met new competitors who consistently offered encouragement and helped them learn new things along the way. The barn has become an environment where we can truly be ourselves and feel like we are part of something larger.
Again, as we chat it up in the truck, I can't help but reflect on the positive interactions we had with others. It's incredible how surrounding yourself with people who see the good in you and others can truly make a difference in your life. Positive friendships are not just a luxury, but an investment in your overall well-being. In fact, healthy friendships have certain key characteristics that contribute to their success. Trust is the foundation upon which friendships are built – it's about being honest, dependable, and loyal. Respect is also crucial, as friends should appreciate one another for who they truly are, and have the ability to communicate openly about their feelings and resolve conflicts. Moreover, friends offer support – and this kind of support has been linked to higher commitment, satisfaction, and investment in relationships. A healthy friendship also involves reciprocity, which means there's a mutual give-and-take dynamic. And let's not forget about empathy and kindness – these qualities are essential for nurturing and maintaining healthy friendships. As an adult, I can truly attest to the solace and fulfillment I find in the friendships and acquaintances I've made along the way. It brings peace to my heart knowing that I'm not alone in the daily juggling act of managing a home, pursuing a career, and raising my children while also supporting their passions. Sometimes, as I gaze out into a sea of horse trailers, I see parents diligently shoveling manure and doing their best to hold it together. It's in those moments that I realize how grateful I am to be surrounded by like-minded individuals who understand the challenges and joys of this lifestyle. Never would I have thought that brushing my teeth off the side of a horse trailer in a cold cow pasture would bring me such contentment. Yet, seeing our children work hard, showcasing their talents and enjoying every moment, fills my heart with immense joy. Being part of this network of people, this close-knit community of honest, hardworking individuals who share our passions, makes me feel connected and fulfilled. It's in these relationships that I find the strength, inspiration, and support to navigate the ups and downs of life.
You can’t underestimate the importance of not going through life alone; having a supportive tribe can be invaluable. In those moments where vulnerability knocks at our door, it's crucial to remember that our teenagers are keenly observing us, observing how we navigate relationships and determine who becomes part of our inner circle. They learn from our actions and choices, both consciously and subconsciously, shaping their own understanding of connection and community.
